Does sex belong in video games?

Mass Effect Sex


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Tits and ass are incredibly prevalent in modern society. Sex is used to sell products in advertising, actors are shamefully primped into digitally crafted sex symbols and TV shows like Toddlers in Tiaras, stretch the definition of acceptable television viewing. Sex is everywhere, but oddly, not in our games.

With the recent pulling of No Reply Games' sex focused, interactive story 'game' “Seduce Me” from Valve's Greenlight service due to breaking of the terms and conditions – for being an “offensive” title – sex is back in the headlines of gaming websites the world over, all of them asking the question, “does sex belong in video games?”

It could be argued that games purely focused around sex are pornographic in nature and therefore warrant some sort of segmentation perhaps, in the way it is with websites and traditionally with stores that cater specifically to it.

But what about games that just feature sex as a feature or component of the overall experience?

Every time a popular title attempts to put anything sex like in its games that goes beyond a fade to black and some grunts, there's a problem. Look at GTA: San Andreas' Hot Coffee mod, or the blue side boob that appeared for a brief second in Mass Effect 2. It all gets blown out of proportion, people that haven't even played the game or seen footage of the event start screaming “save the children,” and to some it seems as if the world is going to end.

Of course it never does and children are as corrupted as their parents allow them to be. These games have age ratings for a reason and if parents choose to ignore them it's their responsibility to set it right, or at least explain things to their kids so they understand and learn about the adult activity in a constructive way.

But should it be there in the first place? Well the obvious answer would be yes, for a variety of reasons.

1: Taking into consideration the age ratings I mentioned earlier, the average gamer is in their 30s at this point. Not only have they had sex, they've been living with internet pornography for over 15 years. Believe me, unless you're doing a game adaptation of The Serbian Film, this is nothing we haven't seen before.

2: Unless it's Manhunt, where ritualistic killing was censored because... it's the game the lobby groups decided to go after, murder barely raises an eyebrow from anyone. Killing is rampant in games. Just look at the fast Paragon leveller in Diablo III. He's killed almost two million monsters alone. If he can commit mass murder, why can't a game have a sex scene in it?

3: Sex is a part of life. For anyone that doesn't know, it's how babies are made. Shocking I know, but we all began our life at a moment of parental coitus and society is slowly beginning to lose the taboo. It's still there – and enjoyed by many – but the simple fact is that sex shouldn't be considered a naughty thing any more. It's in films, in advertising, television and there is absolutely no reason it shouldn't be in our games.

However, despite these very obvious reasons that sex should be included in games and accepted by the public as a simple part of the artistic medium, the blame isn't entirely on the shoulders of complainers. Game developers could also help the cause out.

Despite the criticism for its leud content, Mass Effect actually has an incredibly impressive and deeply emotional erotic part to it but it is a rarity. More often than not, we get adventurers fucking hookers, or silly quick time sex games or button mashing to fuck harder. This isn't the type of thing that detractors of sexual content in gaming are going to agree with, probably ever.

No I'm not saying that because lobbyists and complainers have stale sex lives that games should be the same, but there isn't a reason that sex can't be used as an emotional connector between characters either.

Games focused around getting the clothes off of a digital woman should be just as allowed to exist in our gaming spheres as the latest AAA blockbuster, but they don't further the cause of sex in video games as much as they could.

Not only do I believe that sex deserves to be a part of gaming, I think it deserves to have more credit as a part of the emotional story within a game. It doesn't need to be your character just getting his rocks off, or a nudge-nudge-wink-wink from the developers saying “we know what you gamers want, digital titties,” but a real way for players to connect with a character.

We talked a few weeks about about how Lara Croft's surviving of an attempted rape could be used to delve into all sorts of new character emotions within a game. How about include a sex scene in that game not long after the rape and make it optional. Have it so that players can decide. If she goes along with it, perhaps Lara is emotionally distracted and merely trying to forget a horrific experience, thereby not building a relationship with the male counterpart. Perhaps if she says no, players can learn something about his character.

Sex is a massive motivator in human life and it should be used in games as well, not just as a treat or a laughable aside, but a real part of the gameplay. It can be part of the story and part of the world the developers create.

It doesn't always have to be, just as not every single racing game has to be a sim like experience, but just now and again I'd like to see some real effort put into sex.

That last line could have been phrased better.

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sex in video games

A rating system has been put in place as now there are much more adult gamers out there now and games being catered to them. just like a 10 yr old in a video store. and there are many adult titles available to rent or buy so you wouldnt go and rent out faces of death for your children or blacks on blondes would you? The ratings are in place so you use them. i personally hope to see developers use the rating system to the full exstent! like differnt version of the same game etc. C, E, E10+,T,M,A were applicable.


If you don't want sex in your video games then don't buy that video game, if you don't want your kids to play games with sex...don't buy it for them. If your kid can use a computer, chances are he has already seen naked women or men. or you could always try talking to your children about sex...try being a good parent regardless of your religious beliefs.


The Victorian era ruined sex for everybody, damn prudish bastards. Look at history, the Romans, the greeks, hell look at what they pulled out of Pompeii (secret life of pornography doco highly recommend) sex was celebrated in the same way we celebrate our abilities to jump and dance or sing or any of the other amazing things we can do with our bodies, it didnt become dirty until a few hundred years ago,what all these freakin religious nuts dont understand is sex isnt dirty its not a bad secret thing that we must hide from, infact the only question that should ever be asked about sex regards consent and im pretty sure all video game characters consent to what they do. IF GOD DIDNT WANT US TO HAVE SEX IT WOULDNT BE ENJOYABLE. Religion is a method of control created by those who were not born into power, it is so freakin obvious I cant belive it still exists but I guess at least it keeps all the morons inline. To that person at the top with the freakin novel of a post... You suck... But also think about this, what you hold to be true you have been told by man and simply believe, what I hold to be true is drawn from logical conculsions made by using the mind god gave me, which makes more sense?

Ah, fornication. You have

Ah, fornication. You have made quite a name for yourself lately, have you not? Yes, you have been quite naughty… As evidenced by a study of any effort and at any length, from obvious to in-depth, out of all of the major mortal sins, most of the souls that have gone to hell within the past century if not more have been damned for fornication. Sex is for reproduction, yet we’ve managed to turn its pleasure aspect into the #1 reason for eternal damnation. Incredible. Bravo, humanity. Like the Devil’s greatest lie––to convince the world that he doesn’t exist––the major mortal sin of fornication has, surpassing every one of its other dark brethren, successfully beguiled the world of its destruction and own gravity. It has blinded the eyes of cultures with no little success. It whispers, and men rush to obey. Amen I say to you: If God could eliminate only one major mortal sin from being counted amongst you, he would eliminate fornication, because it makes of murder a kitten, because the destruction of no other would prosper his Kingdom more. Murder takes lives. Fornication takes souls. Abraham Lincoln once said that if he had six hours to chop down a tree, he would spend the first four sharpening his axe. Regardless of belief system, instruction on the avoidance of fornication must begin before and especially during the teenage years. This early and firm––in other words, clear––instruction will serve people much better and stronger than even a greater focus on it but situated later in life. For the purposes of clarity alone, ‘fornication’ is defined here as ‘any sort of sexual act between unmarried persons.’ Such acts most popularly include manual sex, oral sex, or intercourse. This clarification is vital, since there seems no end of mortal sinners who would refer to themselves as ‘virgins,’ or lay claim to chastity or some other purity, simply because they haven’t committed standard intercourse, but have indeed given or received manual sex or oral sex. Evil is as evil does, pure and simple. Some will defend fornication in particular with “sex is natural”… and then wear plastic. You want ‘natural’? Get pregnant. That’s what ‘the birds and the bees’ means. We are like swans who take one mate for life. Oh, what? You like the pleasurable part of ‘natural’ but not the baby part? Oh, you’re not ‘ready’ for a baby yet! Guess what? You’re not ‘ready’ for the pleasurable part either. Don’t worry though, it doesn’t take much to suddenly be ready for both at once. It’s called ‘marriage.’ Ah, may nature take its course! Fornicators also tell themselves not to be ashamed of themselves. Amen I say to you: Do not be ashamed of God’s will. Indeed, do not even afford evil the slightest influence over your hearts. In catechizing others, there may always be a better ‘how’––I do not claim to be an expert on ‘how’––but the ‘what’ is always the same: Fornication is absolutely forbidden, all its forms. It is forbidden intrinsically, ‘intrinsically’ meaning: it is impossible to find a valid excuse to fornicate, ‘valid’ meaning: an excuse valid with God. If you disagree with any of God’s teachings on the sanctity of human sexuality, you disagree with and cannot partake of human sexuality. To be perfectly clear, fornication is forbidden during or between or in the form of: dating, one night stands, cohabitation, ‘girlfriend’ and ‘boyfriend’ relationships, strangers, friends, fiancés, and in or between any and every other fashion or relationship. In other words, there is no such thing, in God’s eyes, unlike in the eyes of man, as pre-marital ‘commitment.’ Neither living together, nor referring to someone as one’s ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend,’ nor dating, nor entering the pre-marital fiancé stage, nor any other familiar illusion of commitment provides an actual scenario of commitment––if one cares about what God thinks, that is––nor of ‘cheating’ on someone, nor of a valid nuptial or conjugal or sexual act. There used to be a time when to be a ‘slut’ was a bad thing. Now we don’t call it ‘bad’. Or we don’t call them ‘sluts.’ Many if not most women these days are so ‘easy.’ So many grossly unworthy of the skin they’re in. I’ve no doubt that there are many women who would practically beg someone to move in together––music to the ears of most men who would love to fornicate, especially if she hasn’t yet given it up, but would do so if cohabitating––as if she’s fooled herself into believing that cohabitating means that they’re one step closer to tying the knot. Women these days make it so easy for fornicating men that such men barely even have to try anymore. Ask Christ if sex before marriage is okay and he’ll say that no one who loves another ever shares, offers, accepts, or asks for a sexual act from them, before they give everything else first: their exclusive lifelong vow and unity in marriage, and, if ever necessary, even life itself. When it comes to sexual morality, we tend to get what we deserve. Someone who ‘gives it up’ before marriage is likely to marry a spouse who has done likewise, with the decreased standards and quality of marriage that brings, which seem to be least expected by the untrue spouses themselves. Someone who doesn’t ‘give it up’ before marriage is likely to marry a spouse who has done likewise, with the increased quality and happiness of marital love that brings, that fornicators deny themselves and consequently claim doesn’t exist. If you’re single and looking, you don’t have to do much praying to find out how Christ wants you to find someone: This should be a given, but: there’s nothing wrong with dating. Unlike the way many horrible forms of media and entertainment treat it, it’s an innocent sexless act in which you simply get to know people. In fact I’d probably personally recommend dating a lot, with a lot of different people, even in a small amount of time, especially if you’re rather time-economic about the matter. A very useful aspect of convincing anyone who isn’t yet particularly anti-fornication is to begin like this: Unlike so many other evil things, pedophile acts are something that seem to always be considered evil, by almost everyone, regardless of how otherwise horrible or lacking their sexual morals are. Pedophile acts are a universal sexual immorality that no one would dare support. As such, they make a great first focal point in introducing the mindset that we must have on all fornication: If potential fornicators, or non-fornicators who aren’t necessarily yet anti-fornication, or even already-fornicators, consider pedophile acts to be an evil thing, all they must then do is extend that very same mindset, to all fornication. What they think of pedophile acts––nothing more than fornication with a child––must extend until it encompasses even consensual fornication between two consenting adults. Remember that we don’t actually have a ‘right’ to ‘consent’ to how another person uses ‘our’ body, because consenting to something being given away or lent presupposes that the one doing the consenting owns what is being given away or lent. We don’t ‘own’ the bodies we’re in. God does. You don’t want God to cease owning your body. That’s what the state after death called ‘hell’ is all about. The greatest Vatican document regarding God’s will on sexuality that I have ever had the pleasure to come across is 1975’s Persona Humana (The Human Person) which may be read either by typing in the following lengthy internet URL or by searching for it by name using the Vatican website’s Advanced Search feature, with English selected as the language, at Generations are blind to their own evils. Persona Humana is truly an instruction for the present one, which sees people not as God’s creations owned by God and owned by God alone, but as animals, free for the taking. Oh how ignorance is bliss. Mentality can be so twisted in one who does not believe in a Creator, or who believes in him but does not acknowledge him––does not realize him––affecting the way one perceives or understands others. The mind of one who acknowledges God is drastically different from one who does not, especially as regards people. A lot about avoidance of sexual mortal sins if not other types as well is about dispelling this ‘ignorance is bliss’ mindset that the godless mind will have. If we, humanity, are actually nothing more than creatures of a creator, then this life is something of, not so much a ‘lie’, with its negative connotations, but a dream, (an ironic and true comparison with atheistic claims of the next life being a lie or dream, when in fact this one is the dream) that we must see for what it is, and simply avoid mortal sin long enough to get into the only life that isn’t a dream: the eternal one with God. The scenario we’re in is alarmingly like the film The Matrix. This is a dream and it’s our purpose to wake up, and to wake up the world. It’s all too easy to get wrapped up in this dream, which is why I think so many find it hard to reach this mindset. I would pity them if not for how blissful their ignorance must be. Once you ‘wake’, you never go back to sleep. In fact the greatest mystery is this: What will eternal life be like? That answer which God keeps from us until that life begins for those judged there. It’s strange but true that we press on towards the goal of this eternal life even while in an existence so separate from it. It’s a strange situation indeed. The primary purpose of life, and indeed what seems like the only purpose, is to do whatever we can to influence individual souls to make it into heaven and not hell. Save a life and you save the world. Someone’s eternal soul means the entire world to that one person. No matter what happens in the grand scheme of things, someone has gone to heaven, and that someone is eternally blessed, and someone else has gone to hell, and that someone is eternally cursed. This is something we can help, and this is our purpose, even through all the muck and mystery of this stage. Get to heaven, and make sure there will be many people there to greet you. Foresight. Life requires foresight. The stakes are just too unimaginably high. Imagine life in reverse and base your life on that. It must be hinged on foresight. Heaven first, earth after. The first things are last, and the last things are first. People have made entirely too many mistakes by now to continue learning from their own instead of another’s. The mistakes of others are a gift to you. Use it. Life is entirely too short to learn from your own mistakes. And then there’s the afterlife. Our Purge in Purgatory, and subsequently Heaven, is one of the most wonderful things to look forward to, because it will wipe out of us all the horrible ways we’ve been ‘programmed’ that result in our frustrating disordered passions. For whatever reason that the way that we’ve been programmed has a place in God’s plan, it will not be missed. Someday we’ll be free of our horrible flawed mindsets, and become completely holy––truly like God––forever. Lastly is a list I previously brainstormed of all the evils which are owed to fornication alone, the destruction of which would mean the almost complete destruction of every item on this list. The effects of fornication are so huge, so numerous, that even this may not be an extensive list, but, even as it is, it is a sobering testament to the power of what it means to be the most popular mortal sin. This list has the power to sway even some proponents of fornication. I refer to the list of the Effects of Fornication as ‘The Many Faces of Fornication’: - Damnation - Abortion - Break-up of families - Child sex abuse - Children growing up without both biological parents - Children more susceptible to fall victim to sexual abuse by ‘stepfathers’, or their mother’s ‘boyfriends’, or others, or physical or mental abuse - Children much less likely to be raised being taught the most core morals, continuing a vicious cycle - Cohabitation that involves sex, presented as valid by an illusion of commitment created by living together - Confusion and unsureness regarding serious sexual morals/ethics - Contraceptive sex acts inside or outside of marriage - Damage to the image of popularity/majority opinion of morality/goodness/God - Dating handled as an occasion for sex instead of simply getting to know someone in search of one’s life spouse - Decline of cultural morality - Decrease in interest in and financial support to Christian churches and charities fighting starvation and disease - Decrease in interest in God/goodness and increase in hatred of ‘religion’ due to satisfaction with mortal sin - Decrease of human dignity - Degradation of marriage and meaning of the marital vows - Depression - Disinterest in the gift of the marital act and unity - Disrespect of women - Divorce - Drugging and date-rape - Examples in mass media and communication of fictional characters fornicating, thereby further promoting it - Gay marriage advocation with reason and logic making it look fair, due to ignorance about why God made sex - Haunting memories in everyone personally touched by any of these evils - Human rights violations involving a sexual nature - Human trafficking; the sex slave trade; sex tourism, much of which is made up of children - Incest - Increase in desire for contraceptive sex acts with spouse - Increase in lustful wear, lust, and impure thoughts - Increase in magnitude of perversions due to gradual indulging in ever-worsening perversions - Internet websites that aid those seeking a sexual partner - Islamic Jihadist hatred against pro-fornication cultures, also resulting in terrorism and terrorism-related deaths - Public places used for and popular for ‘cruising’, seeking a sexual partner, such as nightclubs - Mental damage related to a sex act - No reason to marry - Painting the pro-fornication culture as the worst example of what that freedom brings, as if it must lead to evil - Pornography - Pro-fornication messages in media, communication, internet, TV, films, magazines, etc. - Prostitution - Rape - Reason to be in denial about and against God/goodness, as well as thereby inviting other vices and mortal sin - Sexual harassment - Sharing of nude photos or video online or by cell phone - STDs - Tax-payer dollars spent in fighting any of these applicable evils - Tax-payer dollars spent to actually support abortion, contraception, pro-fornication, or any other of these evils - Too much extra work for already busy law enforcement officials - Unwanted pregnancy - Unwillingness to have children - Use of the terms ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend’ to create the illusion of a valid commitment in which sex is valid - Women’s ‘rights’ used as promiscuity’s guise to hide women’s true right to not be sex objects for men

your sky fairy is a ...

your sky fairy is a lie not just his pretend enemy AND HAS NO BARING ON THIS DISCUSSION . The God and Goddess encourage me to be kind to all (ESPECIALLY THE MENTALLY CHALLENGED) so with extreme difficulty i will just say "had yer weeshed min you've dribbled doon yer chin"

You are a modern day pharisee

You are not a Christian (christ-like). Jesus loved sinners and preached grace. He did not condemn or place himself above them as did the pharisees- as do you. Our focus should be love and grace. It is not our job to keep a tally of other's sins or pass judgment because we are all guilty. You are no better than any of the "fornicators". John 8: 1-11

You are a modern day pharisee

You are not a Christian (christ-like). Jesus loved sinners and preached grace. He did not condemn or place himself above them as did the pharisees- as do you. Our focus should be love and grace. It is not our job to keep a tally of other's sins or pass judgment because we are all guilty. You are no better than any of the "fornicators". John 8: 1-11

UR Insane

Let me ask you this... Did everyone who had sex before marriage was invented go straight to hell? The catholic king who marries a 12 year old against her will and has sex on their wedding night, he goes to heaven? What about the animals? Should I be marrying my dogs? It is people like you that started the crusades, you are not god, you just think you are... Douche


the bible states animals have no souls.... your point about animals is now invalid and should not be taken as any part of discussion seeing as being sinLESS is only serious for things with souls (humans only)

Are you a hypocrite

Let me ask you these two things then make a statement. How much are you interceeding in the lives around you. Have you ever committed adultery or lust of the eye, because if you read the word, it says so as a man thinkinth so is he. So carnal thoughts have crossed your mind. The statement I want to make isthis. Your thesis essay gives valid proof of why Christians or Christianity is shunned now a days. The question was should sex be allowed in video games, you could've said yes or no. Not a story on your beliefs. Pushing religion down peoples throat isn't going to help convert them, it going to push them further away. If you feel that fervently, get out from behind a desk and go talk to those around you. And honestly, I could care less if sex is in a game or not. I'm a christian and avid gamer. If I don't want to play a game doused in sex, here's a thought, I just don't buy it lol.

dont give a damn

if they do it like Mass Effect did, which in my opinion was a very tasteful way of doing it then why not? you don't see any "naughty" bits and its all clean except for the fact that sex is SUGGESTED and not seen except in the "before and after" segments. I mean for me that was an iffy part of the game.... but thinking about it, it actually added to the story line showing that Shepperd had a GF/BF/amphibious reptile monster thingy that he/she cared for due to the events that have happened in the game However if its some gratuitous 18+ mini game fan service type thing where you see everything and control your "speed/force/ect/ect" like how I hear the GTA sex mini-game was then no.... no it shouldn't be in a game unless its clearly marked for 18 or older on the front of the case! ..................In turn I say, its all in presentation, don't throw a sex mini game in there to have a sex mini game..... don't show the act of it, but imply it, make it feal like that sex has a reason to be there, Mass Effect hit it spot on IMO, other then "me do good mini game... me gets moneys!" and definitely don't make it a major focus >_>

Mortal Sin?

I am a devout christian, and I do believe that the Bible says that no sin is greater or lesser than any other. ALL SIN ends in death. Luckily for us, we have one man that died in our places thousands f years ago, so that our sins may be forgiven.


Dude your crazy did you know most parents let their kids play shooting games and all those adult games?if a kid went to their favorite arcade and then went to his favorite shooting game and all of th sudden people are having sex and their parents come to get them,guess where that kids never going to again

"if a kid went to their

"if a kid went to their favorite arcade and then went to his favorite shooting game and all of th sudden people are having sex and their parents come to get them,guess where that kids never going to again" do you mean people in the arcade just randomly start bending each other over the game cabinets? or do you mean THE CHARACTERS IN THE GAME start having sex? if it's the latter argument, then are you saying you agree with the lobbyist groups that killing people is more acceptable than having sex with them? is that why the parents won't let him go back? "shoot as many soldiers as you want, honey, but DON'T fuck the princess!!" i'd like to approach your argument intelligently, but i can't find any intelligence to counter. what exactly are you trying to prove?

dude, use common sense, what

dude, use common sense, what do you think average means? not all but average. meaning variants on both ends so sure 12, 13, hell even 4, 5 , and 6 year olds, but also 50, 60, and 70. so average is just that around 30s

100% Agreement, in Emotional Essence

Playing Mass Effect Trilogy, i got my first sex scene/relationship kickoff.. and i actually felt idk how to say it but happy, like i was actually in a relationship with this character i felt attached to/like i knew her my whole life, but the moral of the story im trying to get at is, when an option came up to sleep with another character, i said no, because that paticular scene made me feel like i was really in a commited relationship with ashley, and i said no cause i felt like it would ACTUALLY hurt the characters feelings and it felt as though, id feel like an asshole for doing that to her, so this would be a good example of the topic as that sex scene made me actually feel for that character as if she was a real person, and it was that "romance scene" that really made it official, sounds stupid i know, but with a good game,with options like mass effect, you really do grow feelings for these ppl, and if they die, you get pissed and sad, if they get mad at you, you feel like a dick, and if sex is maturely put into video games, it can be a groundbreaking gamechanger as to how you feel about these characters, and as he said.. sex is an everyday part of life, the people that banned these games, most likely went home to there wives, and commited the same act they are taking a part in banning in the video game environment, i think people are being immature. you might as well say this game cant be made, i dont want to get cooties. SPARE ME, grow up, open your eyes, and unplug your ears, and open up to the fact that sex is human nature, weve been doing it since the first recorded human civilization.. DEAL WITH IT

Dude you are absolutely right

Dude you are absolutely right. I played through the Mass Effect trilogy also. Except, Ashley was the surviving teammate throughout till Mass Effect 3. Every decision I made she was against. I remember becoming so angry with her. Even though its a game, you just become so involved with these characters you build an emotional attachment. I remember the big argument midway through ME3 that decides wether she stays on the citadel or come back to the Normandy. I went the route that told her she wasn't welcome back. But I did tell her it was great she became a Specter(I think that's what it is). The decision making and conversation directions you can choose in Mass Effect are in my opinion the best in business of gaming.

video games

when is the next A-O Adult Only game coming out for any kind of game counsel like Xbox or PlayStation? and yes I 100% support having sex in video games as I can never find a video game thats all about dating chicks and then having sex or a military game that has some brutal sex scenes. I want to play a game thats like seeing the movie hostle but with thee actual Blood Buts 'n Gore. a game that you can kill in many many ways and fuck in many ways. I want to be able to behead someone and then drink his blood then cut open his body and eat the organs or fuck a girl. whip her with a spike chain then cut her up and fuck her. Thats what I really wanna do in a video game but non are hardcore. why? this question is to strike up a conversation. spread the word of my serious questions that actually need answers for


OK, first, let me start by saying that the author is 100% correct. There is a ratings system for a reason. If you CHOOSE to ignore those ratings and buy a Mature rated game for your underage child, then it is YOUR responsibility to deal with those consequences. The raising of your child is your own responsibility. More and more I see younger generations acting out in ways that would have gotten us, as children, a belt or tabasco/soap in the mouth to teach us that what we were doing was wrong and that there were repercussions to our actions. Am I against child abuse? YES, but there are some instances where a spanking is called for. Parents these days seem to be less focused on their children and more focused on their jobs, or gossip, etc. If you, as a parent, aren't comfortable with your child being exposed to certain things, then don't buy a game for them where those things are listed in the rating. Every game store I've been to warns the buyer of the content and gives them the option not to buy it. Why should the portion of the gaming community that actually IS mature and doesn't mind being exposed to these things be punished because of the fears of those who have no business raising a child in the first place? Society has grown too ignorant of the realities of life and the world. I grew up in the computer/gaming age. The time when the industry first got off the ground. In the time of the original DOOM and Wolfenstein and Super Nintendo. Everything was new, but there were still gore and sexual innuendos hidden that werent controversial at all. God forbid your child is exposed to sex in video games. If this was really the issue, then you'd be crying outrage at television, movies, and books. Why hasn't this happened? Because those are all "accepted" formes of artistic expression. What about paintings or drawings by many well-known artists? There's plenty of gore and sexual innuendo there. Hell, there's even a lot of nudity. But, wait, it's an "accepted" medium of expression. Why should video games be held to different standards?

Get over it

It WILL happen. Ignorant parents and clueless customers shouldn't be surprised if this ends up in a "M" rated game. It states at the back of the game case: "Blood/Gore/Use of Drugs/Nudity/Extreme Violence etc". Don't like it? Don't by it. I can guarantee that we will be seeing it a lot more in the future, not too far from now. If it tells a story and helps people understand characters/scenarios etc then it has every right to be in a "M" rated game. The whole debate about this topic isn't even necessary. Grow up people. Especially you, adult parents.

Glad this subject is being talked about...

At the risk of breaking the internet, or the sky caving in, I am a British female gamer in my mid 30s. It is not my intention to offend the religious, or the bigoted, or those of delicate sensibility but I would like to say that I agree 100% with the author of this article. It has long been a frustration of mine (excuse the pun) that games aimed at adults, i.e. those rated 18+, are so prudish about sex. You can have blood, violence and death by the bucketload but would a glimpse of nipple really traumatise the masses? I accept that some people don't want to see sex in games, and like those who have already made such comments before me, I would implore you to simply avoid games which contain content that you are not comfortable with and stop trying to dictate to the rest of us what we should and shouldn't be allowed to see. The Mass Effect series and both Witcher games are some of my favourites and this is mainly because of the mature themes, the depth of story and my emotional engagement with the characters I was playing and those around them. In my honest opinion, the only thing that would have improved these games would be not to have my immersion broken by fading to black at any moment of intimacy. I am not afraid of my body nor of sexual imagery. In fact, I found the avoidance of the subject in Age of Conan particularly peculiar given the harsh and brutal setting. The world we live in can be a hard and cruel place and closing our eyes to this doesn't make it go away. Sex can be a beautiful and natural thing or it can be horrific and terrifying but it is a part of life and I would like to see this reflected in the games I choose to play, as it is in the books I choose to read or the films and television programs I choose to watch. I am an adult and I would like to be treated as such. In closing, I would like to add that I am happy and healthy and in a long-term relationship with the love of my life, and I consider myself reasonably well-adjudsted.

Sex is here to stay in games

Does sex belong in video games? Only softcore. First off, this isn't the 1800's anymore. Views on sex and relationships has changed since then. Everything from simple fan service to hardcore porn is more commonplace. Some people say sex is sacred, but so are relationships - a sacred commitment, and yet people are divorcing left and right and remarrying to have sex with others like it's nothing. Since these things happen more frequently nowadays, I can't view sex as sacred as it used to be. Today, visual sex appeal (male and female) is used to draw in an audience towards a particular type of interest - in this case, games. Gaming started off as being something mainly males enjoy. So what did developers do? They used a feature that appeals to males: sex. Throwing scantily-clad females in media isn't meant to disrespect females. It has been done with other male interests such as playboy, automobile/racing mags, FHM, Maxim, etc. However, unlike some magazines that'll forever only appeal to males, gaming is a neutral ground, having both male and female company. Because of the increase of female gamers, sex appeal in games now is becoming an issue. Developers then decided to take the next step: actual sexual encounters between the characters. It's been done in other written media, why not games? If you're going to argue about sex being in games, then you may as well argue about sex being in books and movies as well. Games, books, and movies all have something in common - they all have a story to tell, and they all use sex as a feature to display the bond between love interests. Because of this reason alone, I think sex should be allowed in games, as a side feature - used to tell a story, because I see it as just another intimate factor such as kissing. However, I do believe the level of the sexual encounter needs to be limited. Ratings should be enforced and parental responsibilities should be exercised as well. Hardcore sex or too many sex scenes may ruin the gaming experience regardless of the rating. If I want to play a porn game, then I'll just do so. Softcore sex (nudity without genitals, partial nudity/undergarments, or even a silhouette) in games should be the max, and should only last long enough to get the point across.

Give it a F***ing break

Come on, MK games have had gore going beyond the reasonable and girls that might as well be naked with how scantily clad they are and how overblown the effects on their tits are. There's violence and gore rampant throughout games and sexual innuendo enough to make a person want to throw up, but sex is where we draw the line? What's the point of labeling a game mature if you're not going to treat the gaming audience as if they were mature? I like rpgs and a factor that is becoming more prominent in rpgs is romance with party members, and sex is part of that dynamic. The thing about these portions of video games is that they're optional. No one is forcing you to play this portion of the game, and there's always the option to skip the scene if you want to play through the romance but don't feel like watching a sex scene. I personally don't care about the sex scenes, but I do feel that the interactive romance aspect of rpgs is an amusing addition and that the cheesy alternatives that they have come up with are just ridiculously stupid, however if it falls to removing them entirely or including them in a more realistic manner I'd rather they include them in a more realistic manner.

Oh my God. Really? What is

Oh my God. Really? What is wrong with all of you liberal/left wing nuts? I am Seventeen, and my parents exposed me to movies with sex, drugs, and violence early on, coupled with sitting down and explaining to me what I heard/saw. Not just that but telling me why what was shown was wrong if it was, and then telling me the consequences of actions if I choose to replicate what ever it was I had viewed. Want to the know the punch line? I am in a stable four year long relationship. We don't make love, we don't have sex (And yes, there is a difference.), and that's because we know what could happen, not because we were told not too. I don't do drugs, never touched the stuff. I don't drink, and I don't believe in violence unless in self defence. And even then I was raised with martial arts training and so I believe in restraint. If you don't want your kid to see something then don't let them. If you don't want your kid to know something, don't let them. If you don't want them to hear somethin, your s*** out of luck. Its the parents responsibility to teach their children about the world and everything in it. And then furthermore, its your child's responsibility to behave like a decent human being. Life is full of choices, and NOTHING, except yourself, tells you what to do. And as a parent, you have to trust that you taught your child all you could, so they can make the right choices. And furthermore if you all want to know what is really wrong with the world? Zero Accountability. No one wants to be responsible for their own mistakes.


Don't make this as if this is nature. It isn't. It is not humane and no where near civilization. As a matter of fact, the thing is, the more civilized we are, the more we should learn to respect one another. That's the way to go. Sex and all those kinds of porn-ish stuff are dated back in caveman days. Women half naked or naked, men too, this is not the future. Games is games, sex is sex. You combine those two it is a conflict. It ruins the game's definition. It's not cool. Maybe you're fine with all those, but your mindset is not. It is not making you to be normal as humane. Even if you don't do crack and drink, the others out there may not be same as you.


No.. Just no. I agree with some of these people, sex is a private thing meant to be between two lovers. Depictation of sex these days in media and in real life are already out of whack. People think sex is the course of bonding between two friends or "Friends with benefits" and that it's a natural thing. Yes it's natural, yes it makes babies, yes it's a part of human life. Does it need to be shown to the world? No. You don't show people when you take a piss every few hours do you? You don't show your feces to other people do you? Oh but it's natural. Do you show people the genital herpes or such that you get to other people? No but it's natural. You got it "naturally" by the same damn thing you're trying to push into our games. As stated above. No one wants to see it in public. You wanna watch people get their freak on, then go watch porn. There's hundreds of sites with free porn on them . Fan of hentai? They have that too. But for god's sakes, I don't wanna see it in my games. For those who complain about kids playing killing games but bash those about the sex games: Killing games are one thing, and to be honest I wouldn't let my child play a Call of Duty-type game unless he or she were mature enough to play. The children playing these games usually have parents that don't care or irresponsible. But it all comes down to maturity. As for sex games, that's a given, you simply don't show that to kids, or in public for that matter. Let's be real here. The only people who want the sex in games just want it because they wanna get their rocks off while doing the other most favorite thing of their life, gaming. That's the average gamer these days, sex and gaming. Stop making excuses "Oh it's in media" "Oh it's artistic" "Oh it's BLAH BLAH" I don't give a fuck. It's not artistic. What's artistic about sex? It's only in media because lust-filled dumbasses like you are putting it there. So let me make myself clear for those who don't understand and have sex on the brain 24/7 and need a breakdown to comprehend this: Sex is not artistic. Sex should not be public, it's a bond between two lovers. Games should be as it always was, a form of entertainment and amusement, not lustful satisfaction. If you have urges, go fucking watch porn, or better yet, get off this computer, go find a girl, and do that. You probably do anyways (or probably half of you don't even have girlfriends/boyfriends). Get a life people god!

your argument seems to be

your argument seems to be less about sex in games and more about sex in general. sex and dealing with the emotions surrounding it are a big part of art because artists usually try to find a way to "help understand" or "make sense" or "recreate the emotional connection" not just to a partner but to the world around them. does it have to be gratuitous and NC-17-worthy? no. Dan In Real Life was a great movie that basically revolved around sex and sexual tension, but there was no graphic nudity, and it was sill a very powerful movie. so no-one should experience this movie because it's all about sex? artists shouldn't be allowed to talk about sex and process it in a way for the populous to manage themselves? in fact, should we even be talking about sex in public? war and murder is ok, we can talk about those, but sex? nonononono, WAAAAY too taboo. if your point is that there's too much sex used by the media to exploit weakness (usually to sell something--or run for president if you're Sarah Palin), then tell me something i don't know. if your point is that sex disgusts you in any form, and that creating a "work of art" in whatever medium to try and explain/articulate all the complex emotions behind it should not only NOT BE MADE but to have all the creative energy behind it REPRESSED, just because you "don't wanna see it", then quite frankly every artist on the planet is going to tell you to go fuck yourself

I get what you're saying...

I get what you're saying... but... For example. In movies. People say sex in unnecessary there too. If Kyle Reese hadn't laid Sarah Connor, John Connor never would've been born and the machines would've won man! YOU WANT THE MACHINES TO WIN? All joking aside. Take something like that, with all the weight, consequence, and everything and imagine it as a video game. Is it dirty? No. And how the hell are video games public? You keep saying sex is private. Excuse me while I go take my video game console, hook it up to the HD flat at McDonalds and play a rated mature game in front of everyone. I'll play the games I want in the PRIVACY of my own home. So shut up with your sex should be private rant. It is private. It's just ALSO talked about. Doesn't mean we're fucking on your front lawn. Jesus. Not to mention you can CHOOSE which games you buy. You don't have to buy the ones that say "Stong Sexual Content" you tightwad. Just like you don't have see movies with sex in them. There are MPAA rating descriptors. Websites where you can find out specifics. ALSO sex in video games isn't about satisfying lustful urges (in the ones that matter), its about a fuller gaming immersive experience. Imagine going through life being told you can never have sex cause just no. I'm not saying ALL games need sex. But in the games where it's fitting, there is NO reason why not. The game in question also probably features graphic killing, probably cursing, and drug use. Please explain to me why a basic biological function has no place in a game, when you can slaughter an entire village of innocent people in the medieval game of your choice, and THATS okay. No problem there right?

Artistic sex

There actually can be such a thing as artistic sex, or at least sex used for an artistic purpose. Literature has done this for centuries, classics such as the Faerie Queen or Canterbury Tales (The Miller's Tale in particular) have sections that are completely about sex and sexual imagery. If I was a better English major I could probably list hundreds of titles that use sex in their story. So, here's the question, why? Why do they do this? You stated the very reason yourself "it's a bond between two lovers" Sex should be, physically and emotionally, the closest you ever come to another human being. It is the most intimate and terrifying relationship you can have, it is also a cultural milestone, something people, especially men, need to experience. There is a reason virgin adults are mocked by our society, we see them as inadequate in some way. So if games are to reach the same standards as Literature and Film, if they are to invoke the same deep questions about what it means to be human, then shouldn't all options be available to them, and such a common and deep connection as sex is a powerful force for storytelling. It can be so much more than it is now and I think we could have truly revolutionary games if this was ever done perfectly


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