Does sex belong in video games?

Mass Effect Sex


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Tits and ass are incredibly prevalent in modern society. Sex is used to sell products in advertising, actors are shamefully primped into digitally crafted sex symbols and TV shows like Toddlers in Tiaras, stretch the definition of acceptable television viewing. Sex is everywhere, but oddly, not in our games.

With the recent pulling of No Reply Games' sex focused, interactive story 'game' “Seduce Me” from Valve's Greenlight service due to breaking of the terms and conditions – for being an “offensive” title – sex is back in the headlines of gaming websites the world over, all of them asking the question, “does sex belong in video games?”

It could be argued that games purely focused around sex are pornographic in nature and therefore warrant some sort of segmentation perhaps, in the way it is with websites and traditionally with stores that cater specifically to it.

But what about games that just feature sex as a feature or component of the overall experience?

Every time a popular title attempts to put anything sex like in its games that goes beyond a fade to black and some grunts, there's a problem. Look at GTA: San Andreas' Hot Coffee mod, or the blue side boob that appeared for a brief second in Mass Effect 2. It all gets blown out of proportion, people that haven't even played the game or seen footage of the event start screaming “save the children,” and to some it seems as if the world is going to end.

Of course it never does and children are as corrupted as their parents allow them to be. These games have age ratings for a reason and if parents choose to ignore them it's their responsibility to set it right, or at least explain things to their kids so they understand and learn about the adult activity in a constructive way.

But should it be there in the first place? Well the obvious answer would be yes, for a variety of reasons.

1: Taking into consideration the age ratings I mentioned earlier, the average gamer is in their 30s at this point. Not only have they had sex, they've been living with internet pornography for over 15 years. Believe me, unless you're doing a game adaptation of The Serbian Film, this is nothing we haven't seen before.

2: Unless it's Manhunt, where ritualistic killing was censored because... it's the game the lobby groups decided to go after, murder barely raises an eyebrow from anyone. Killing is rampant in games. Just look at the fast Paragon leveller in Diablo III. He's killed almost two million monsters alone. If he can commit mass murder, why can't a game have a sex scene in it?

3: Sex is a part of life. For anyone that doesn't know, it's how babies are made. Shocking I know, but we all began our life at a moment of parental coitus and society is slowly beginning to lose the taboo. It's still there – and enjoyed by many – but the simple fact is that sex shouldn't be considered a naughty thing any more. It's in films, in advertising, television and there is absolutely no reason it shouldn't be in our games.

However, despite these very obvious reasons that sex should be included in games and accepted by the public as a simple part of the artistic medium, the blame isn't entirely on the shoulders of complainers. Game developers could also help the cause out.

Despite the criticism for its leud content, Mass Effect actually has an incredibly impressive and deeply emotional erotic part to it but it is a rarity. More often than not, we get adventurers fucking hookers, or silly quick time sex games or button mashing to fuck harder. This isn't the type of thing that detractors of sexual content in gaming are going to agree with, probably ever.

No I'm not saying that because lobbyists and complainers have stale sex lives that games should be the same, but there isn't a reason that sex can't be used as an emotional connector between characters either.

Games focused around getting the clothes off of a digital woman should be just as allowed to exist in our gaming spheres as the latest AAA blockbuster, but they don't further the cause of sex in video games as much as they could.

Not only do I believe that sex deserves to be a part of gaming, I think it deserves to have more credit as a part of the emotional story within a game. It doesn't need to be your character just getting his rocks off, or a nudge-nudge-wink-wink from the developers saying “we know what you gamers want, digital titties,” but a real way for players to connect with a character.

We talked a few weeks about about how Lara Croft's surviving of an attempted rape could be used to delve into all sorts of new character emotions within a game. How about include a sex scene in that game not long after the rape and make it optional. Have it so that players can decide. If she goes along with it, perhaps Lara is emotionally distracted and merely trying to forget a horrific experience, thereby not building a relationship with the male counterpart. Perhaps if she says no, players can learn something about his character.

Sex is a massive motivator in human life and it should be used in games as well, not just as a treat or a laughable aside, but a real part of the gameplay. It can be part of the story and part of the world the developers create.

It doesn't always have to be, just as not every single racing game has to be a sim like experience, but just now and again I'd like to see some real effort put into sex.

That last line could have been phrased better.

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Who set you up as the gaming

Who set you up as the gaming police? You have no right to tell parents what their kids can and cannot play. This is a parental responsibility, and it only becomes yours if you have a kid. I think it's quite sad that some people have such a skewed viewpoint that they think it's perfectly fine to usurp the parent's role and abuse a person's rights like you claim you've done. How dare you? You should be ashamed of yourself.


Do you want the government to step in? Is that what you need in your life to have the government to do everything for you? They already have laws that will fine retail stores if they sell to minors. It is the stores responsibility and the workers as well to make sure they abide by those laws. I love how you say it's the parent's responsibility to decide. Alright then, next time your child comes home drunk with booze, just keep that thought in your head. It's your fault and don't sue the bar/pub.

hold on now

First and for most you can't say that he has no right to tell them that he can't sale the game. IF THAT IS THE GUIDE LINE OF HIS JOB ! if the kid is a preteen and he sales it even with his parents present thats a law suit waiting to happen you have to think of it in a business manner. Ian If you run a game business and you make a game that is rated M and the child is 13 with their parent trying to buy the game you could lose your company all of your money would be gone. because whatever content that you put into that game and that 13 year old child goes out there and does it YOU AS THE COMPANY ARE HELD RESPONDABLE BECAUSE IT WAS YOUR GAME AND YOU SOLD IT TO THEM ! Not only that can be 2 people pertending to be the childs parents !

You missed the point...

I have also denied the sale to a minor of restricted content. Parents have also come by and had words with me over it. Honestly, if the parent comes by to make the purchase so be it, but the problem arises when the child comes to pay with his/her money while the parent is off doing other shopping. The feeling I get is usually related to the parent being annoyed that they have to actually take time out of what they want to do and focus for a fleeting moment on what their child is doing. Again, any parent may allow their child to play what they want. Parents, get over yourself, and don't get annoyed with merchants who are only following the letter of the law. Specifically @Cooper: You missed the point. This salesperson was not "the gaming police" and to go to the length of your verbal bashing really illustrates to me a hot-headed response devoid of insight or at least empathy. Get over yourself. It's illegal to sell certain content to any minor (as in alcohol, movies, etc.). You even mentioned in your article that the problem is actually with the parents not paying attention to their kids, or persons selling content without asking for identification. I don't agree with the ESRB in any viewpoint. I endorse graphic sex and violence. Society has yet to share this same opinion, and until it does, laws will be laws. I am a law-abiding citizen. I always will be. The difference I make is through voting.


I wrote an article on the same topic, which you might enjoy. and it's called "Game censorship – when will the oppression end?" (The Greenlight incident inspired me a tad). I liked yours :) My suggestion is out of mutual interest

If you can kill , steal ,

If you can kill , steal , destroy in games why the heck shouldn't you be able to watch nude bodies , have sex , rape or get raped ? People who claim otherwise are hypocrites and ridiculous and i think these self proclaimed women of gaming should learn how to talk and behave before attempting to judge the games world It's not respectful to shout like you do it in reality to your husband/boyfriend etc Adjust yourselves to the gaming world , understand it and then demand things I for one am for full content and of course with the proper rating because i'm sick and tired of dumbed down and censored games that have no taste because the ***** part is removed

Too Difficult to Portray?

I don't disagree that sex, as a natural part of life, shouldn't be controversial when included in a video game meant for adults. However, I don't think games can handle it. They are good at simple things such as shooting. Alive or dead. On or off. 0 or 1. But sex is more complicated and involves emotions. If it is portrayed in a cut-scene, it is no more a "game" than a movie is. Yet if they try to make a "game" out of it, it ends up as a matter of pressing buttons or selecting menu choices. Not very emotional or stimulating or thought provoking.


why does it have to be in the game if they have it portrayed in there its fine but too have them play out a sex scene is just stupid this just shows how society just wants sex in everything like it wouldnt have any different affect if they did like in god of war where they didnt show it but portrayed it. you people that want this in games clearly dont play games for the actual game and just play it cause its there. you need sex in games just to get amused? its not needed in games, if i wanna watch sex id watch porn or better yet just go get some


games don't just try to entertain you but also thy to offer a real experience to you so why not add sex? isn't sex real? are you ashamed of having sex? should people stop having sex?

This is all very misleading,

This is all very misleading, you don't turn on basic television and see an explicit sex scene, some movies will incorporate a "soft" porn approach, but typically make it short to keep from an NC-17 rating. Sex is NOT all over television and movies, so using that to argue that sex HAS to be used in games is just ridicules. There is an ***** Rating in video games and a couple of titles have earned it with explicit sexual themes and scenes. Also, just because you are 30 doesnt make every gamer 30, and fact is most parents dont bat an eye at letting their kids play games that are inappropriate because they dont realize how involved games have become

Sex is NOT all over TV ?????

Sex is NOT all over TV ????? Watch prime-time network's advertising for their new shows. There is almost always an explosion, a woman with a bra/bikini top either undressing or similar, guys fighting or at least one punch thrown, car chase and more explosions and ALWAYS hot babes with a quick shot of seduction/sexual situation/intimacy. All garbage and all the networks do it. Network TV truly will rot your brain

the problem is

The problem we have today is that people who are not gamers think of games as toys for kids. However as this article states many games are in their 30's, heck I'm almost there myself being 28. The problem I see is the rating system and the ESRB. Yes that's right the ESRB. I can't tell you how many times really great ideas have been cut from games just because it was the one thing that would have tipped the game just over the line on the rating scale into ***** only. I actually worked as a game tester for one of the big three. I've seen it happen, seen great things be pulled in fear of the dreaded adults only rating. What we need is a rating that is indeed for adults only and yet stores will still carry. Right now if a game gets an adults only rating the only stores that will carry it are sex shops. Games are not just for kids and if movies can have sex so should video games. Maybe it's the name of the medium that's the problem. Lets try this again. If movies can show sex then so should interactive media.

I agree with you that if it

I agree with you that if it is allowed in one it should be allowed in the other. But if it is allowed eventually the games will be just as bad as the movies. I know that some games (and movies) put scenes in that are not obscene, mass effect did a god job of keeping it meaningful and not just pointless sex. But most of the time it is tasteless and obscene. Maybe the question isn't "should we allow more of it in games?" But "should we allow less of it in movies?"

You couldn't be more right.

You couldn't be more right. What people don't understand is that video games are not just for kids. The generation that started playing video games are now adults. Guess what, we still play games and we want ***** games. That doesn't mean all we want are sex games, but when a developer wants to put sex in a game or extra gore there should be no problem.

One minor quibble

I agree with you, but actually, the generation that started playing video games now have ***** children of their own. The video game industry began in 1971 with the release of the arcade game, Computer Space. I started playing video games in about 1975 at age 13.

What are we talking about?!!

I didn't have sex until i was 30 and married..i choose to be that way. Oh and gaming industries wanting to include sex in games is a good way to ensure condom companies will have a good business in future, they could be even funding the games development...which is cool. I'm just saying.


There is already a rating system in place for parents to see before purchasing games. Children are not permitted to purchase games with inappropriate content. Specific reasoning for an ***** rating is required for all packaged games. All digitally distribution services also mandate specific ratings and age verification. The issue has was addressed long ago. If you don't want your children playing grand theft auto or leisure suit larry then don't buy it for them, pay attention for games they borrow from friends, and ensure your kids don't use your credit cards. ***** consumers have every right to enjoy both violent games and games loaded with sexual content. Parents have no right to demand limits just because they are negligent in their parental responsibilities.

reply: irrelevant

the real problem is that a lot of parents us tv to raise their kids for them cause their not around so now they are turning to video games to do the same thing not paying any attention to the rating system anything to keep their kids quiet and out off their hair. p.s these are the same people who are the ones that say oh that person went on a shooting spree at school he playied to many violent video games

The idea that video gaming

The idea that video gaming fuels shooting sprees is a myth. There has never been a single shooting incident linked to video game use, despite all the press engaging in our era's little moral panic. Some of us play video games with our kids. It's not about getting kids out of our hair - it's about sharing quality time. I find it disgusting that some folks choose to get in the way of that and pretend that they're doing so for a high moral cause. Leave me alone to raise my kid as I see fit and don't assume you have any idea of my competence in raising my very well behaved child who is both an avid video gamer and a high-achieving student.

That was exactly his point.

That was exactly his point. The people who blame video games for shootings are the people who toss their kids into electronic day-care. They're hypocrites and entirely ignorant of the actual effect games have on children: nil. Although, the shooting at Virginia Tech way back when (almost 20 years ago, now) was indirectly linked to Doom. The shooters played Doom, and that's how the whole myth started. Also, you were not being attacked. Don't be so defensive. This guy was literally only talking about the hypocritical parents who purchase inappropriate games without actually doing the research first, merely because they don't have the time to watch their kids. Not all parents do that, as you're clearly aware.

sex in games is masturbation in the living room

The reason that sex is taboo in games is because gaming is a relatively 'public' thing in the household. Children can be killing in the living room while parents are reading the newspaper nearby. This isn't the case when the child is essentially masturbating in their minds while the parents are reading the newspaper nearby.

if they're 18+ and still

if they're 18+ and still playing video games on their parents living room TV there is a tad bit of a "grow the **** up" issue here. Aside: I was confused at first, but your captcha system is a great idea. Keep it up folks.

It works for -some- games...

Some games handle it well, while some just put sex in just for the sake of it. Not every game needs a sexual side and many games could be hurt by sex scenes or making gameplay out of it. With that said, I must ask why you mentioned Toddlers & Tiaras at the beginning. White trash and beauty pageants don't equal sex. True, the idea of parading ones daughters in dresses and layers of makeup strikes me as a bit creepy, but mentioning these child pageants at the same time as something about sex does both sides a disservice.

how is it different?

Beauty pageants are nothing but sexual and in a ritualistic way. They dress their young daughters up in little versions of clothes ***** women wear and then you paint her face up to make her look much older. It is a completely sexual and archaic practice, you are pretty much putting your child up for display to the public and giving her to them to take and a piece of meat.


A game should enable you to delve into the life another and experience different things, that, under normal circumstances, won't ever be possible, and arguing that no video game character has ever had or will have sex until his marriage is false reasoning. If it furthers the IMMERSION I'm all for it.

That's BS. A lot of people

That's BS. A lot of people wait until their married, you *******, and that's AFTER 18 for some. I respect anyone who waits until their married. Because to me I feel they have strong character, they have disciplined themselves, have a strong MIND. Don't be generalizing the entire world, Jesus CHRIST. Anyways, SEX should not be in video games PERIOD. I really don't like that. Games aren't pornography, games is to work your mind not have a character sleep with male/female.


this guy is a tool huh? Yea bible thumpers who will cry conspiracy when we find life outside the earth and disprove the bible in one fell swoop. its a statistical fact that the VAST VAST majority doesn't miss out and wait till they are married just to "prove a point" to some omnipotent being who if he existed would obviously care less ROFLMAO. anyhow, sex is the most natural thing in the world. if it fits in the game, and the game is labled as mature, it belongs as much as a title or the need for a controller. talking about dumb generalizations, listen to yourself. better yet, don't and spend your time trying to get laid. I promise, its not dirty and wrong and you will like it!

You know what??? That is so f

You know what??? That is so f@&king offensive. Get a life. People who are right minded will not say that. People unlike you who doesn't want to go to hell will not say that. So shut the hell up and catch your **** and find Jesus! You piece of....ooohhhhhh!!!! I just...I just NVM!!!

a game is like any artform:

a game is like any artform: it can be as tasteful or as perverse as the creator wants. i wouldn't want my daughter listening to mickey minaj singing about "**** who want and **** who you like" and "getting higher than a ************" but that hasn't stopped her from making "music". so video games are different because you need a controller to work them? :S are you saying Jay & Silent Bob Strike Back as a video game should never be made, NOT because it'd be a terrible game, but because of all the sexual humour that would be included? if sex can't be in video games, then it shouldn't be in any artform PERIOD; but i DO think it has it's place, so excuse me for not agreeing with you in the slightest. also, people who date a lot generally have well-adjusted social skills because they CHOOSE TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE, and whether that includes sex or not is up to their discretion; simply abstaining doesn't always show discipline, it can also show AN INABILITY TO ACT DECISIVELY. BTW, based on the tone of you're message, you were either brought up in a highly-religious family, or were a loser in childhood like most of us ****** on the iinternet and you use this "a lot of people wait until they're married" line to make yourself look more prestigious when really you wanted to lose your cherry before your balls even dropped.

Thank you

Finally someone who understands!!!! Sex is just dominating our world! There's already a whole frickin country that basically worships porn and sex! It shouldn't be apart of our games.

Why is sex bad? Did a book

Why is sex bad? Did a book tell you sex was bad and that naked bodies were shameful things? The ancient Romans viewed the human body as a living work of art - which is why most of their statues were naked or partially. I think it's completely absurd that you're whining about sex when day time television can show someone getting shot in the head and kids play games where you can cut people in half with chainsaws. But two people consenting to mutual pleasure is wrong. There's something wrong with your brain.

Thank you

Finally someone who understands!!!! Sex is just dominating our world! There's already a whole frickin country that basically worships porn and sex! It shouldn't be apart of our games.

Your opinion is odd

The fact that in your opinion sex should not be in video games at all is incredibly close minded. Sex is a natural thing and in my mind has nothing to do with strength of character discipline or mind, that's so conservative and outdated thinking... Of course I do respect if someone has vowed not to have sex before marriage it's their decision, but it's not the absolute best option as you seem to make it. Oh and you talk about generalizing the entire world and then proceed to say "Jesus CHRIST", I find that mildly humorous. And the fact that you single-handedly decide what all games are for as if you made them all is hilarious. Religious conservative?

Saying that anything that

Saying that anything that contains sex is porn is just wrong, how many movies have you seen where there's a sex scene? If you can honestly answer that "None", then you have led an incredibly sheltered life, and I would suggest watching a few good moives... If you actually read the entire artical then you'd see he wasn't saying "All games need porn", more a "Sex shouldn't be forcibly removed from situations when it exists just because it's in a game". Saying there should be no sex in games is equivelent to saying that all nude paintings/sculptures should be removed or hidden. I agree that games shouldn't be filled with sex or use it as a major selling point, but like the auther said, if it fits the situation ingame then it's stupid to remove it just because of the medium.

This is where you have it wrong sweetly

We already have it in movies and all this other stuff, but once we get it in games, there is no turning back. Just like in movies, first it started with someone saying, "All we're going to do is show these women an men in their underwear making out" then it turned into someone saying "Get in the bed and under the covers...." Then all he'll broke loose...people started to get naked! We can't have that in our games. That's where we get away from it all. Trust me, if we started putting sex in our games, it will dominate regular games. We already see games with women with huge ******* and all this other stuff. Games have nothing to with sexual pleasure. We shouldn't have to turn down or mute the TV when playing a game. We shouldn't have to cover our eyes. We shouldn't have to quickly skip or change the TV channel to a different source. I just don't agree.


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